Happy Valentine's Day to everyone. I hope every one's day went well at some point or in some way or another and that no one got bombarded by mushyness to the point of wanting to kick in couple's teeth.
Is it ever OK to fake an orgasm?
Perhaps I should have worded that question 'Should you ever fake an orgasm?' as there is no morality to the act.
I don't think anyone should fake orgasms ever.
I mean, think about it ladies and the few odd men out who know how to fake theirs, orgasms feel so good. Don't you deserve to feel that? Don't you think every sexual experience you have should be a fulfilling and awesome one?
If you really want to fake your orgasm, have fun; but in the end you're cheating yourself. Communication really is key to everything and sex acts are no different. If someone isn't doing something right, or if it just isn't happening, don't think that faking it is going to solve the problem. The problem is that you're not getting off, faking does nothing.
And I know what some women are thinking, 'But Addy! I don't want to hurt my lover's feelings!'
OK, well you don't have to be rude about it then. There are ways to approach the subject gently. There is no shame in asking for what you want, or if you have trouble vocalizing it, showing your lover what you want them to do to you. Besides if you're having sex with someone, you should be able to talk openly and honestly with them without them getting their knickers in a twist. I know if I was doing something that just wasn't cutting it for somebody I would want to know.
I know I'm quite guilty of this; at first it was because of not being able to communicate my needs with my then boyfriends and then it was because of anxieties. Consequentially I've only had a couple of orgasms given to me by only two people...ever. Well besides the ones I've given myself of course. Being that I'm now 26, that is sad as hell! Especially since the first person that got it right made me wonder why I never voiced my concerns before then.
So everyone, stop faking your damn orgasms! And if you're the better half of someone who has the courage to tell you they don't really like what you're doing at the present time, don't feel bad about it. Just take it as a learning experience, you would want them to do the same for you.
What is your favorite naughty website?
I used to love Redtube, but now I'm more about Deviant Clip and Sun Porno.
Also Kitties and Titties because it's hilarious and gives me the church giggles.